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Can You Forgive?

We discussed last week the ability to let go of a relationship that was unhealthy.  Once you have made the decision to leave that relationship, can you do it without blaming, or holding a grudge against that person?

He who forgiveth,
and is reconciled unto his enemy,
shall receive his reward from God;
for he loveth not the unjust doers.
   -- Koran, sura 42

Letting go of a relationship is painful enough without taking extra baggage with you on the rest of your life’s journey.  Francios Mauriac said ‘No love, no friendship, can cross the path of our destiny without leaving some mark on it forever’.  What mark has this relationship made on you?  What have you learned from this relationship?

A wise man will make haste to forgive, 
because he knows the full value of time 
and will not suffer it to pass away 
in unnecessary pain.
- Rambler

Instead of spending your time blaming, or focusing on the past, look for the things you can learn from this relationship, both good and bad.  Examine your own behavior:

What should you do differently in the next relationship? 
What do you want from your next relationship?

Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting.  But it does mean letting go of the past and looking to the future.  You are the only one that will be hurt by your thoughts!

- Joe Freeman

He that cannot forgive others,
breaks the bridge over which he himself
must pass if he would ever reach heaven;
for everyone has need to be forgiven.
- Lord Herbert
 

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