Do You Have It?

Are you impressed with people who ‘have it all together’. People who don’t seem to struggle the same way most of us struggle on a daily basis. You can hear people say this about others, and yet they have no information that confirms this theory. It is simply an observation in a moment of time. This person is giving the impression that they have life under control. They are in charge! We usually project this image onto someone who appears to be successful.

The fact is, these ‘successful’ people have no more control over their life than you or I. Success has varying levels and each level brings it’s own set of problems and fears for all of us. What appears to be success to you, may be very frightening to this person. The image you see is just that – an image. The person behind that image is just as scared as you and I. They go home at night to the same human issues you and I live with everyday – finances, relationship issues (marriage, etc.), children, addictions, work, religion, politics, integrity, honesty, etc. You name a problem or issue that you a struggling with, and you will discover that the people whom you view as having it all together are struggling with most of the same issues you have and maybe even more.

If you want to see, open your newspaper or magazine and check out how many 'celebrities' (i.e. successful) are having all types of problems including alcohol, drugs, relationships, etc. No one has total control. No one has it all together all the time. Life is not to be controlled, but to be lived! To be experienced daily. If you don’t ‘have it all together’, don’t worry. You don’t need to have it all together, and more important, you probably never will!

I have learned that success is to be measured
not so much by the position one has reached in life
as by the obstacles he has overcome while trying to succeed.

Booker T. Washington